Mar 4In the Land of Tweens, Avoiding Drama Is Just One Click AwayLast night my nearly 12-year-old told me she was having friend trouble. She confided that she’s had some rather angry messages. As I listened to her describe what happened, she said, “I think it’s her subconscious that is making her see stuff that isn’t really happening.” Hmmm! That’s what adults…Parenting3 min read
Oct 16, 2021How Do You Know When to Leave a Relationship?Because I never want to become a weak, subordinate again. — ‘You have a pattern of always being the one to end relationships, I want to help you stop.’ This is what my boyfriend said to me, as we stood on a busy city street outside my workplace. That sounded rather self-serving to my ears, given the circumstances. It’s true, I’ve…Relationships5 min read
Feb 23, 2021How to Stop Having Those Annoying Serial ArgumentsA few simple choices can create real change My boyfriend called me a bully last Summer, and I wondered what drugs he was on. I’m one of the kindest people I know. Truly. Fast forward 7 months, and I can notice what he sees, minus his been-hurt-many-times filter. Not because he’s right but because I can step into…Life Lessons6 min read
Aug 20, 2020Communication Is Not Always the Answer to a Healthy RelationshipRespecting each other’s freedom matters more. — When I was 24 years old, my boyfriend of only a few months, a quiet and introverted personal trainer, screamed at me for suggesting an alternative driving route. It was a learning experience. A week later, I broke it off. I couldn’t shake the visceral feelings I had. He had…Life Lessons5 min read
Jun 17, 2020I Never Thought I’d Hear The Words, ‘You Don’t Understand’Parenting 101 - read the room and learn to pivot. — I have always focused on being the parent that comes from a place of empathy. I see my children as people, as unique and entirely separate to me. Turning my kids into me has never been the goal. So it came as a shock when my tween daughter shut me…Parenting3 min read
Published in The Reckless Muse·Jun 13, 2020Creative People Need To Rethink What It Means To Be a ScatterbrainMy boss said something this week that reeked of interference from a well-meaning person. She said, ‘I really need to learn to focus on one thing at a time’. I had walked into the shop about 30 minutes earlier, at the start of my shift, buckets of flowers freshly purchased…Creativity6 min read
May 28, 2020My Tween Has Started Opening Up to Me AgainWas it Something I Said? — This morning my daughter yelled at me saying she had to be at school for 8am and told me last night. It was a lie. I was perplexed why she was behaving this way in front of her Dad, who’d driven over to take them to breakfast before school because…Parenting7 min read
May 26, 2020Sometimes Obstacles Can Lead Us to a Better OutcomeHow Our Changing Times Thwarted My Daughter’s Plans — My daughter has spent the last eight weeks doing errands around the house to save up for a desk. She wants to feel grown-up, because at age 11, this comes in the form of a private study area. She’s been fantasising about her desk — and kid stationery of all…Parenting3 min read
May 19, 2020Is My Mother a Narcissist or a Person Living With a Deep Wounding?When I was 27-years-old, I asked my mother a question that had been percolating for years. It was hard to ask. Part of me was afraid of the answer. She’d just flown across the country to spend her 60th birthday with me in Vancouver. …Life Lessons7 min read
May 14, 2020Being A Deep Thinker Used To Create Mental Drain, Until I Found Another WayWhat is it to be a deep thinker? Many thoughts swirl around in our minds, yet little comes out our mouths before we’re ready to share. But do we need to think our way through our problems too, or is there another way that can give us more freedom? Many…Mindfulness4 min read
