It Feels Hard To Let Another Woman Mother My Children
When I imagined us as a happy, modern family my vision of the step Mom influencing my children was someone who enjoyed my company; Someone I’d want to hang out with, laugh at her stories over a bottle of wine, and text funny memes.
But this is not my children’s soon-to-be stepmom. We couldn’t be more different.
I realised early on when I noticed that her only hobby is shopping. I hate the mall. She spends every Saturday there.
But she loves my children. She wants them to enjoy their life with her — what a gift. So I try not to worry about how she’ll influence them.
Years ago, when their Dad and I separated, I could’nt bear the thought of turning him into a weekend Dad. So I didn’t. But that meant I only see my children for half the week.
I never expected him to replace me so quickly. Our children were very young and impressionable, not even in school yet.
Sharing my precious little girls with another woman felt hard.
My ex’s partner showing zero interest in what I value. I’m a mother who worked diligently to remove unhealthy patterns collected from my own painful childhood, who works to become the conscious parent that my children deserve.
